Help - Help! How I Help My Mother

Help - Help! How I Help My MotherThis is how I help my mother...for about thirty years. Well, maybe, maybe not, but still. So here's how I help my mother with her writing: Let her do what she wants to do.She's never taken any time off for the holidays (probably, she does have her own life to occupy her time) so she has an excuse to be lazy. She can write about her mother and her mothering style in which she's been. She can also tell stories about how she knows her mother. She doesn't really need me to keep track of her because it's all very self-centered and very little regard for others.I'm not sure what her background is, but I'm sure that she's never done anything for herself. This is why it's important to let her be and not pry. I don't think I've ever noticed when she's prying. If you listen closely, though, it's often at the wrong times or at the right times and you don't catch on. That's the problem with letting people write on their own.Here's a quick insight on how I help m y mother. It's pretty easy once you figure out what kind of environment she needs to be in. She likes quiet time at the kitchen table with her children (my children of course) so when she's writing it's best to not be there. And make sure she's always taken care of.But then it's a great time to step in and give her advice and tips. And let her know she's an inspiration to many who read her essay, short stories, interviews, whatever. She needs to know that. She needs to hear it every day.It's okay if she wants to have me bounce her off a little. But only during those times that she wants to talk or write. But don't try to read her essay and give her tips or advice. Just don't.But that doesn't mean you're not allowed to try and get her to share the feelings she's feeling with you. When she's in the zone, she's usually more open to sharing her feelings. Just don't push too hard. And yes, if she's going to share her feelings, you're welcome to.So what is this all about: How I help my mo ther? To a certain extent, I think this essay is about all of us, especially the mother and child. We just both have to push ourselves to continue. Every day.